Kimmy Seltzer

Confidence Therapist, Authentic Dating Strategist & Image Expert at Charisma Quotient LLC

Women Empowerment

Education: Indiana University - University of Chicago
Los Angeles, CA, USA


Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist, Authentic Dating Strategist and Image Expert. With a vat of knowledge and experience as a therapist, certified style coach, dating coach, and matchmaker, she has helped people find lasting love and connection, attract success and build valuable relationships using her unique “confidence makeover” process. Using an outside-in approach, Kimmy implements targeted style, emotional and social intelligence in people’s lives using her signature formula, “The Charisma Quotient,” working on body language, first impressions, image/wardrobe and flirting and how it impacts attraction. This Los Angeles-based expert travels the country helping people discover confidence, charisma and connection as a speaker at National Matchmaking Conferences, eHarmony, Neutrogena, The Guild at Universal, UCLA and iDate. Kimmy is also a regular contributor to the Huffington Post with appearances in Cosmopolitan, Oprah Magazine, Redbook, Reader’s Digest, AskMen, Fox News Magazine, Yahoo and the Washington Examiner, among a myriad of other publications. Kimmy has been the leading love expert on the traveling live dating show The Great Love Debate, a show on Amazon Live with SwayTv, Kimmy’s Love Hub and the cable reality series, The Romance. You can also listen to her on her podcast, The Charisma Quotient and regular Ask Kimmy segments on the Chaz and AJ Morning Show on 99.1 PLR and 95.9 The Fox.


Build Your Confidence And Charisma: Attract The Career, Success & Money You Deserve
The Love Makeover: The Magic Formula for How To Create Attraction & Find Love
The Power of Presentatiton: Building Your Confidence From The Outside In
How Your Personal Brand Impacts Leadership
How To Create A Great First Impression
Achieve ROI With A Killer Image

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Best Story

A story I tell often is about a single woman in her late 40s I worked with years ago who had undergone a complete transformation outside and in. She came to me with very low self confidence, hadn't had a date since her divorce 23 years prior and had no social life. She spent most of her time pouring her energy into raising her kids and working to support them. She was finally ready to focus on her life, however, had no idea where to start. Her life completely changed after our first call together where she decided to do a complete makeover package which included shopping/styling, confidence coaching, flirting, therapy and a photoshoot. What was apparent after our initial meeting, was how much she had given her power away all of these years being married to a narcissist, being a people pleaser and never truly finding her voice. The first step for that changed her entire mindset and set the course for her new life was to shop with her because she needed evidence of seeing herself differently. When we entered the department store, she started experiencing an anxiety attack and stopped me to say that she covered all of her mirrors at home and hadn’t looked at herself in 15 years. Now as a therapist, I know that traditionally what I might have done in that situation was do some cognitive and behavioral talking therapy but that is not what she needed. She needed to see herself differently in order to get over this fear and low self image of herself. I asked her to try on a coat and slip into some sexy boots and to give me 5 seconds in the mirror with these items on. When she finally looked at her reflection, she stood there way beyond 5 seconds and started crying while whimpering, “I have never seen myself so beautiful!” From there I created a beautiful monster as we skipped through the store collecting new bold outfits, changing into them with the door open and showing off her new looks to the people in the store. From there we did a photoshoot for her profile pictures, I coached her on how to flirt and put herself out there to create a new social life and bam…she eventually landed a great guy who she is still with today. This is the power of the unique confidence makeover process I use with people that change their perception of themselves and their lives inside and out.

Origin Story

For more than a decade, as a licensed therapist, I taught individuals to work on themselves from the inside out. But then I personally experienced a personal transformation that flipped that script and changed the way I help people today. Years ago, as a young mom of two during the time I was a traditional therapist, I was blind-sided by divorce. There was a period of time where I literally couldn't get out of bed, let alone out of my own way. I wore enormous oversized maternity clothes, and did everything I could to not be seen. Until one day I woke up and looked in the mirror, and I was horrified by what I saw. Before me was a sad, frumpy woman who couldn't get out of her own way. And here I was a therapist...I should know better. I had a ton of counseling myself, a great support system but I still couldn't get out of my own way. Inside out...hogwash! I was standing completely still in analysis paralysis. I needed movement. I needed action. Deciding it was time for a change, I went shopping and was encouraged to try on something completely out of my comfort zone...a red dress that looked like it was 3 sizes too small. But the personal shopper assured me that it was my color and it was my size. So I tried it on like Cinderella, twirled around and looked in the mirror and bam. This was what I call my "red dress moment" where everything shifted for me. Seeing myself dressed that way--in clothing that actually fit my body and in a color that was to be seen. This was me. But I had to see it in order to believe it to create action and build my confidence.

And after years of working with women and men from all backgrounds, cultures and beliefs, what I learned is that confidence is gained faster when you approach it from the outside in. How you are showing up externally can literally shift how you view yourself, and in turn, how others view you. I believe confidence is at the core of achieving our desires through experience and action. It's the gateway to love, prosperity and ultimately, happiness. Through my products, programs and coaching, I help people build confidence from the outside in--to find the love of their life, to conquer their social fears, to finally love themselves. And from that framework I help people with my unique Charisma Quotient formula, implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to people's lives.