Stephanie Thoma
Relationship & Community Building Expert, Conference Speaker, Retreat Facilitator, Panel Moderator at Stephanie Thoma
Professional Training and Coaching
Education: University of California at Santa Barbara
Austin, TX, USA
Biography
Stephanie Thoma is an author and coach known for her inspiring approach to confidence, public speaking, relationship and community building. Her debut book, Confident Introvert, has been praised for empowering introverts to excel in social and professional settings by embracing their unique strengths. Her latest release, Not That Sweet, delves into modern relationships and self-discovery, encouraging readers to embrace authenticity through embodying personal standards, healthy boundary setting and deep self-knowing. Her podcast is called Holistic Ambition and showcases interviews with leaders who prioritize wellbeing, meaning and fun in their careers, business and relationships.
As a connector, Stephanie’s views around networking have been featured in Forbes, Business Insider, Entrepreneur, and Thrive Global. She has also been invited to speak at Harvard, Northeastern, and Boston Universities as well as internationally. To date, Stephanie has helped thousands of people celebrate their strengths, step into their authentic confidence, and make meaningful connections.
Awards: Solo Female Entrepreneur of the Year 2020 & 2021, Stevie Awards, Bronze Winner & #obo100 of 2020 recognizing human-centered business owners
Passion
I’m passionate about empowering leaders and aspiring leaders to overcome anxiety, unlock authentic confidence, and create meaningful connections. Through my signature talks and workshops in the Connect With Confidence series, I guide individuals in mastering the art of building relationships, fostering community, and speaking with impact.
Topics include: (1) Relationship Building, (2) Community Building, and (3) Public Speaking. My mission is to help you step into your power, lead with authenticity, and connect with others in a way that feels natural and impactful.
Best Story
1. From Chance Connection to Lucrative Partnership
A casual conversation at a networking event years ago led to a lasting partnership that’s been both profitable and deeply rewarding. It wasn’t an immediate connection, but through consistent follow-up and trust, that initial chat blossomed into a business relationship that continues to thrive today. It’s a reminder that networking isn’t about quick wins—it’s about long-term cultivation.
2. The Power of One Article of Clothing in Networking
At a major industry conference, I wore bright pink glasses—something that felt true to my style. That small choice sparked numerous meaningful conversations, with people reaching out to connect based on my style choice as a place to begin. Sometimes, standing out with something simple can open doors in unexpected ways.
3. Leading with Self-Awareness vs. Self-Consciousness
I used to struggle with self-consciousness, worrying constantly about how I was perceived, which made it a simple decision to sit a lot of things out. When I shifted to leading with self-awareness instead—focusing on others and trusting myself—I found that connections came more naturally. It’s a game-changer when you stop worrying about yourself (even if you are being judged, it'll happen regardless of how aware of it you are) and start showing up with purpose.
Origin Story
I was painfully shy in social settings growing up—the eldest daughter in a family of five, the "black sheep," and someone who never quite fit in.
For a long time, I believed that deep, authentic connections weren’t possible for someone like me, and the fear of rejection kept me form putting myself out there often. I convinced myself I would have to be fake to belong, so I stayed small. But as I took chances on myself, and contributed to communities and tried on leadership roles, I began to realize that being myself could actually draw people in, not push them away. Over time, I found the courage to speak up, step into the spotlight, and lead from a place of authenticity.
Fast forward to today: I’ve spoken on over 150 stages, both in-person and virtually, across the US and abroad. I’ve coached over 200 clients to find their own voice and lead with confidence. I've brought people together being behind-the scenes and as the host of nearly 1,000 events large and small. The shy, self-doubting person I once was is now someone who empowers others to embrace their vulnerability and share their message with the world. What once felt impossible has become my mission, and I’m here to help you do the same—step into your power, speak with confidence, and connect authentically on your own terms.
Example talks
Relationship Building: Connect With Confidence [Part 1 of 3]
You don't even need to be an introvert to feel anxious at the thought of networking. Do you wish you felt more comfortable meeting new people, but feel like networking is too quick and shallow for you to do it right? Do you feel misunderstood, coming off as unfriendly without meaning to? If this sounds familiar, then I'm excited to invite you to be a part of this workshop.
The Relationship Building: Connect With Confidence workshop has been designed to address those specific concerns and more. You'll leave this event not only having a game plan for your future networking experiences but also feeling more confident in yourself and your ability to make meaningful connections.
Community Building: Connect With Confidence [Part 2 of 3]
Building a strong, supportive community isn’t always easy, especially if you’re not sure where to start. Do you wish you felt more connected to the people around you but struggle to foster genuine relationships? Do you find yourself unsure of how to build lasting bonds, whether online or in person? If this resonates with you, then I’m excited to invite you to this workshop.
The Community Building: Connect With Confidence workshop is designed to help you navigate the nuances of creating meaningful, sustainable relationships. Whether you're looking to build a team, start a group, or simply feel more deeply connected to your peers, this event will equip you with the tools and strategies to grow a thriving community. By the end, you'll leave not only with a clear roadmap for building community but also with the confidence to engage, nurture, and expand your own network of meaningful connections.
Public Speaking: Connect With Confidence [Part 3 of 3]
The idea of speaking in front of an audience can be daunting, even for the most confident among us. Do you find yourself getting nervous or losing your voice when it’s your turn to speak? Are you looking to express your ideas more clearly, but feel unsure about how to connect with your listeners? If so, I’m excited to invite you to this workshop.
The Public Speaking: Connect WithConfidence workshop is designed to help you overcome those nerves and transform your speaking style. You’ll learn how to deliver your message with clarity, poise, and authenticity, while also building a stronger connection with your audience. Whether you’re preparing for a big presentation or simply want to feel more at ease in everyday conversations, this session will give you the tools you need to speak with confidence and make a lasting impact.
Shedding Labels: From Troubled Teen to Confident Connector
In this transformative talk, I share the journey of shedding the labels that once defined me—from being a "troubled teen" to becoming a confident connector. I’ll guide you through the power of breaking free from limiting identities and embracing personal growth. With a mix of storytelling and practical insights, you'll learn how to let go of societal and self-imposed labels, build meaningful connections, and step into your authentic self. This talk will inspire you to redefine your narrative and cultivate deeper, more empowering relationships in all areas of your life.
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Topics
Best Story
1. From Chance Connection to Lucrative Partnership
A casual conversation at a networking event years ago led to a lasting partnership that’s been both profitable and deeply rewarding. It wasn’t an immediate connection, but through consistent follow-up and trust, that initial chat blossomed into a business relationship that continues to thrive today. It’s a reminder that networking isn’t about quick wins—it’s about long-term cultivation.
2. The Power of One Article of Clothing in Networking
At a major industry conference, I wore bright pink glasses—something that felt true to my style. That small choice sparked numerous meaningful conversations, with people reaching out to connect based on my style choice as a place to begin. Sometimes, standing out with something simple can open doors in unexpected ways.
3. Leading with Self-Awareness vs. Self-Consciousness
I used to struggle with self-consciousness, worrying constantly about how I was perceived, which made it a simple decision to sit a lot of things out. When I shifted to leading with self-awareness instead—focusing on others and trusting myself—I found that connections came more naturally. It’s a game-changer when you stop worrying about yourself (even if you are being judged, it'll happen regardless of how aware of it you are) and start showing up with purpose.
Origin Story
I was painfully shy in social settings growing up—the eldest daughter in a family of five, the "black sheep," and someone who never quite fit in.
For a long time, I believed that deep, authentic connections weren’t possible for someone like me, and the fear of rejection kept me form putting myself out there often. I convinced myself I would have to be fake to belong, so I stayed small. But as I took chances on myself, and contributed to communities and tried on leadership roles, I began to realize that being myself could actually draw people in, not push them away. Over time, I found the courage to speak up, step into the spotlight, and lead from a place of authenticity.
Fast forward to today: I’ve spoken on over 150 stages, both in-person and virtually, across the US and abroad. I’ve coached over 200 clients to find their own voice and lead with confidence. I've brought people together being behind-the scenes and as the host of nearly 1,000 events large and small. The shy, self-doubting person I once was is now someone who empowers others to embrace their vulnerability and share their message with the world. What once felt impossible has become my mission, and I’m here to help you do the same—step into your power, speak with confidence, and connect authentically on your own terms.
Example talks
Relationship Building: Connect With Confidence [Part 1 of 3]
You don't even need to be an introvert to feel anxious at the thought of networking. Do you wish you felt more comfortable meeting new people, but feel like networking is too quick and shallow for you to do it right? Do you feel misunderstood, coming off as unfriendly without meaning to? If this sounds familiar, then I'm excited to invite you to be a part of this workshop.
The Relationship Building: Connect With Confidence workshop has been designed to address those specific concerns and more. You'll leave this event not only having a game plan for your future networking experiences but also feeling more confident in yourself and your ability to make meaningful connections.
Community Building: Connect With Confidence [Part 2 of 3]
Building a strong, supportive community isn’t always easy, especially if you’re not sure where to start. Do you wish you felt more connected to the people around you but struggle to foster genuine relationships? Do you find yourself unsure of how to build lasting bonds, whether online or in person? If this resonates with you, then I’m excited to invite you to this workshop.
The Community Building: Connect With Confidence workshop is designed to help you navigate the nuances of creating meaningful, sustainable relationships. Whether you're looking to build a team, start a group, or simply feel more deeply connected to your peers, this event will equip you with the tools and strategies to grow a thriving community. By the end, you'll leave not only with a clear roadmap for building community but also with the confidence to engage, nurture, and expand your own network of meaningful connections.
Public Speaking: Connect With Confidence [Part 3 of 3]
The idea of speaking in front of an audience can be daunting, even for the most confident among us. Do you find yourself getting nervous or losing your voice when it’s your turn to speak? Are you looking to express your ideas more clearly, but feel unsure about how to connect with your listeners? If so, I’m excited to invite you to this workshop.
The Public Speaking: Connect WithConfidence workshop is designed to help you overcome those nerves and transform your speaking style. You’ll learn how to deliver your message with clarity, poise, and authenticity, while also building a stronger connection with your audience. Whether you’re preparing for a big presentation or simply want to feel more at ease in everyday conversations, this session will give you the tools you need to speak with confidence and make a lasting impact.
Shedding Labels: From Troubled Teen to Confident Connector
In this transformative talk, I share the journey of shedding the labels that once defined me—from being a "troubled teen" to becoming a confident connector. I’ll guide you through the power of breaking free from limiting identities and embracing personal growth. With a mix of storytelling and practical insights, you'll learn how to let go of societal and self-imposed labels, build meaningful connections, and step into your authentic self. This talk will inspire you to redefine your narrative and cultivate deeper, more empowering relationships in all areas of your life.