Lauren is a Tedx speaker, and a leadership and mindset speaker. She is the co-host of the Misfits Managed Podcast, as well as the author and podcast host of Go With Your Gut. After learning she had ADHD in her 30’s, she loves to show it as a supepower. She is on a mission to help women thrive in their daily lives with a shift in perspective and finding the opportunity in difficulty.
Mindset, ADHD, Fear, personal development, teaching, psychology of people, personality styles
More than 100 miles
I generally get paid for speaking but make exceptions
I've always been a go with the flow person, afraid to voice my opinion and stand out. I wanted to fit in everywhere. I was afraid to try new things, be in the spotlight, or do something I didn't already know how to do. (because thats how it work, right?!)
I've always loved to help people and my grandmother always told me how wise I was. Of course as a smaller kid, I brushed that off. I also got to adulthood and found myself not really sure who i was or what i wanted to do. I knew some things I was good at, but didn't want to do that for a living. I did the normal thing and got the degree and went the easy route. That was all about to change.
One morning, I had just finished a workout and I was standing in the kitchen eating breakfast. I was angry, pissed, frustrated, and probably depressed. I asked myself what i was doing here? I couldn't take it anymore so I went upstairs and started writing in an old spiral. I wrote everything and anything in my head, for 15 minutes straight. I finished and I could breathe again, some of my anger was gone, and i had clarity.
That was the day I decided to was going to make changes. I was going to be a self image speaker because I had a story to tell. I quite liked being on stage and I wanted to help people. As I started to make changes and work on myself, things changed. I changed, but in such a great way. I no longer cared that I didn't know how to get where I wanted to go, but I would sure as heck figure it out.
Since that day, there has been a fire. One that pulls me to all the things that fulfill me. One that has put me through trials and tribulations and forced me to repeatedly look at myself in the mirror and evaluate myself. A fire that, honestly, i've tried to put out a lot because I got stuck, frustrated, or scared to make the next move.
Each time, i'd get another piece to the puzzle and take a step or two forward. I've learned that its my passion to help, its my passion and duty to use my voice and lead.
What fire do you keep trying to put out because its hard, because it doesn't make sense, or whatever reason you tell yourself? What i've found is difficulty usually presents opportunity, and trials and tribulations give you the personal experience and the understanding to learn, grow, and keep moving stronger.
Years ago, i was burnt out on the job and quite honestly miserable. I thought, "this is not where i'm supposed to be." As I worked and listened to social media snap chat, I heard someone say, "only you can do it, nobody else will make what you want happen." In that moment, I chose to step out in courage and faith to figure out what I wanted with no idea how to get there. The how didn't matter, knew where I wanted to get and there was only one way. Just start. Start learning, and put one foot in front of the other. I began to do things that made me anxious, excited, nervous and many other things. I figured out what tools i needed. I started doing things that got me excited and gave me energy. At that time, it was called Living Life with Lauren, because I was indeed living my life and sharing it. After the trials and tribulations i've been though, it is now Forged by Fire, because I love to share my struggles and my lessons. I have indeed been forged by fire, shaped and tested.
Using Neurodiversity As A Strength
Opening:
Great teams are not only made up of people who can work well together, they are made up of people with different talents and ideas who can combine those talents and ideas to reach a common goal. You likely have some range of neurodiversity on your team, even if you or they don’t know it. Regardless how do you make it a strength? By getting to know your team personally, providing a supportive work environment, pairing projects and duties with skills and interests.
Getting to know Your Team Personally
-What are their hobbies and interests
-When is their productive time? Early morning, afternoon, etc
-How do they process information and communicate?
-Personality style and communication style
Goals
Find out how they like to be rewarded
2. Providing a Supportive Work Environment
-How do they focus best? (Noise/no noise, group office/individual space)
-What tools and resources do they need? (Physical objects, organization, programs)
-How are they managed best? (Hands off or hands on supervisor)
-What systems and processes need to be set up for success
3. Pairing projects and duties with skills and interests
-Based on background and interests- how can you give someone a project that gets them excited?
-If someone is better at testing, or process improvements, business development, creative content
-Ask individuals to strategize the best way to do something, then be open to what they come up with
-Encourage team members to put their spin on a project or a proposal.
-Open new opportunities to the team to encourage growth and learning, allow them to take initiative
Getting Your Team to Trust Their Instincts
Opening:
Our instincts rarely lead us in the wrong direction. I generally find that we don’t listen to it for two reasons: direction from a superior or lack of information and clarity. Teams are made up of people with different jobs, different experiences, and different talents. For the most part, we trust our team members to do their job correctly and to the best of their ability. This means that when doing a new project or maybe an issue pops up, whats the best way to get the project done or find a solution? Team collaboration, right? Having a direction to go is a good thing, and the job of the supervisor or manager. But when a team member is hesitant on a piece of the plan, do the speak up or do they just put their head down and follow the directive? How do you foster an environment where they speak up? Give them your trust, support them, and encourage them.
Giving them Your Trust:
-Giving employees and team members your trust means getting to know them.
-Allowing them to make mistakes and learn from them with support and understanding
-Checking in to make sure things are going well and they aren’t hitting roadblocks
- Give them your time and attention if they bring you an issue or idea.
Support your team:
-mistakes will happen, show your team that its fixable and a learning experience
-Ask each individual what they need for a productive work environment
-Ask each individual what tools and resources they need to do their job (be open to why)
-Provide the time and space for them to give you feedback and what they are seeing
-Assume the positive. If a problem occurs, get their side of the story
-Get their feedback on issues, procedures and how they could be corrected/addressed/improved
Encourage them:
-When improving processes- get your teams input
-Encourage them to come forward if they have an idea
-Give them extra projects that cater to the specific things they are good at
-Ask how they would handle something, if needed work through it, and then let them handle (or voice concerns to they can consider new information)
ADHD is an Asset
ADHD is formally a disability, but from an insider perspective I don’t believe that.
Opening: Shifting perspective on the label, moving from disorder to difference in perspective
-People with ADHD process information different
- We make connections to things in different way
- Creative solutions are different, may push boundaries
2. An Asset to Every Team
- ADHD thinks differently, we are able to come up with innovative solutions
- With a supportive work environment, we can help the team thrive
- Lots of interests and talents allow us to mesh creativity into processes
3. How to provide a supportive environment
- Get to know the team member and ask them how they learn and work best
- Be flexible in their schedule
- Give them the creative space, when new idea’s proposed, help them develop