Amber Tichenor
Founder at Dr. Amber Tichenor, PhD
Women Empowerment
Education: Washington State University - Capella University, PhD
Richmond, VA, USA
Biography
Amber Tichenor has a Ph.D. in Industrial/ Organizational (I/O) Psychology and is the founder of To Be, Coaching + Consulting®. A thought leader on the topic of women’s rivalry, Amber has 20+ years’ experience as an Organizational Change Strategy and Leadership consultant where she helped guide businesses through transformational change. Her book, “Behind Frenemy Lines: Rising Above Female Rivalry To Be Unstoppable Together,” was published by Morgan James Publishing, in November 2021.
Amber is deeply passionate about addressing the phenomenon of rivalry between women, and wrote her PhD thesis on the topic. She consults with organizations and offers speaking engagements and workshops on the importance of the phenomenon, how psychological safety is key in an organizational setting to overcome this negative behavior, the challenges and behaviors it presents, along with coping and recovery steps.
Amber’s goal is to promote collaboration over competition, to empower women to find their voice, leave the rivalry behind, and team up with a community of like-minded women who support each other to be unstoppable together.
Passion
Women uplifting and empowering each other. Inspiring young girls.
Female empowerment. Change. Collaboration over competition. Psychological Safety.
Workplace dynamics.
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I am willing to travel
More than 100 miles
When it comes to payments
Everything is negotiable
Topics
Best Story
As it relates to the topic of female rivalry....
No age, demographic, ethnicity is off limits.
I'd studied this topic in and out. I thought I knew it in my core. I thought I was an 'expert' because of the research I'd done and the stories I'd collected.
And then with happened to me and I didn't know it was occurring. I lost my voice, my shine, my sparkle... all because of the behavior, 'another woman' projected at me.
Origin Story
I researched the phenomenon of female rivalry in the working environment for my PhD dissertation. At the time I hadn't experienced a full on rivalrous situation, but I saw how disruptive it was not only to the women experiencing it but to the entire team/ organization.
Fast forward a few years, I was consulting for a large firm and it happened to me.
It was that 'ah-ha' moment that made me realize this was a topic that the world needed more awareness of. I went in and immediately quit.
And that is how "To Be" came, to be.
Example talks
Red Flags in Female Friendships (vlog/ talk)
That whisper in the back of your mind or nagging feeling... have you ever had it talk to you and then ignored it?
Listening to your ‘spidy’ senses, intuition or gut instinct can tell you a lot. Sometimes it calls attention to things that you really don’t want to listen to. Or, situations that perhaps you’re afraid to change.
🚩Intuition frequently calls attention to ‘red flags,’ which literally symbolize warnings of danger.
While it can be very hard to let go, hanging onto a friendship that isn’t healthy for you can be detrimental to your emotional and mental well-being.
The vlog, “Red Flags In Female Friendships: Listening to Your ‘Spidy Senses’” talks about intuition and unhealthy behaviors that frequently cause female friendships to flatline. It highlights red flags, or signs of manipulation, that are very destructive.
Are you listening to what your ‘spidy’ senses are telling you?
It's Not Your Job to Like Me, It's Mine (vlog/ talk)
The first ‘exotic’ trip I went on I slept on a wooden floor in a sleeping bag, in a hand-made hut, in a remote jungle, in Thailand.
It was freezing.
🐘On Christmas Day we rode elephants as we trekked along the Mae Taeng River.
Un-showered for three days, we were muddy, and absolutely enjoying every second.
I was in college.
It was exhilarating.
Cold or not, I wouldn’t have changed a thing.
⁉️Have you ever experienced something that changed the view you had of yourself?
I have.
Multiple experiences, actually, that evolved into one big experience and turned into an enormous mindset shift.
In a nut-shell, a positive role model and the love of independent travel forced the me to reckon with myself and ultimately view who I was competing against.
Passion-fueled, the force to do better, for myself – by myself, drove me.
It forced me to look in the mirror and view my competition.
And what I found was... that competition was me.
It was one of the best life lessons I could have ever experienced.
Alone, I thrived. Alone, I overcame.
The vlog, “It’s Not Your Job To Like Me, It’s Mine” talks about how I came to the conclusion that I didn’t need the approval of other people, to be who I was meant to be.
Female Workplace Rivalry: Turning Adversaries Into Allies (Workshop)
UPWARD Los Angeles and New York chapters are hosted, "Female Workplace Rivalry: Turning Adversaries Into Allies" with Dr. Amber Tichenor, on Wednesday, June 23, 2021, at 2:30 p.m. Pacific / 5:30 p.m. Eastern.
To say the least, this is a spicy topic and was an interactive discussion!
Participants learned the origins of this phenomenon, how it impacts a woman's sense of psychological safety in the workplace, and how to combat it by building a culture of collaboration over competition.
This is definitely a topic that we all need more awareness about so that we can overcome, uplift and empower one another!!
Behind Frenemy Lines: Rising Above Female Rivalry w/ Soroptimist International of Europe (webinar)
Soroptimist International of Europe (SIE), a global voice for women discusses 'Female Rivalry" with Dr. Amber Tichenor, Female Rivalry Coach and Frank Cummins, Leadership + Executive Coach.
💡#soroptimisteurope says….
Soroptimist International of Europe is bringing back Leadership & Executive Coach, Frank Cummins with a special guest, Dr Amber Tichenor to talk about Female Rivalry.
Dr. Amber Tichenor, PhD, an expert and author of the book "Behind Frenemy Lines", a guide to helping women face and overcome female rivalry, will sit down with Frank to unpack this uncomfortable topic, look at women's empowerment and how to get women to lift each other up and support one another.
Join SIE President Anna’s end of Biennium celebration event, Saturday 18th September 2021, 16.30CET, to hear from two renowned specialists in coaching and leadership! And why not take some key tools and messages with you to uplift, empower and support womankind?
Free Yourself From Frenemies (talk)
Are you curious about what a frenemy is? How it makes you feel? Or, what the behavior looks like?
The book, "Behind Frenemy Lines: Rising Above Female Rivalry To Be Unstoppable Together," written by Dr. Amber Tichenor and published by Morgan James Publishing, dives into the nitty-gritty of what female rivalry is, how it makes you feel and more importantly, how to overcome it.